I have been thinking of a poem I learned a long time ago.  For some reason, I learned it with “She” instead of “He.”  I just found it, and I think it would be appropriate to share here.

She drew a circle that shut me out
Heretic, rebel, a thing to flout
But love and I had the wit to win;
We drew a circle that took her in.
Edwin Markham

As someone who always felt left out, this poem always resonated with me.  I thought, how clever, to be left out and to draw a new circle of inclusion like that.  But I always felt powerless to draw the circles.  I was nothing but an outcast.  I guess that this has motivated me though, and influenced me quite a bit.  I keep trying to draw circles of inclusion.  The trick is to get those I include to accept that circle I drew.  They don’t always, and I suppose it isn’t up to me.  But my circle still includes them anyway.

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  1. Circles of inclusion.
    Everyone, including you, including me, draws circles of inclusion and exclusion. Circles of exclusion are necessary for an ordered and controllable life. You do not include me in your circle of special confidants. I would have no need, no interest in knowing the last time you kissed anyone.
    Circles of inclusion, on the other hand are matters of fact. You are included in the circle of people who post on this blog, a very small circle. You are included in the circle of people who believe God exists, a somewhat larger circle. No one can exclude you from either circle and you can not step out of either circle. (No one knows the future, so these statements may not always be true, but for now they are.)
    The hard part comes when you draw your giant circle of inclusion, taking everyone in. Think hard and long about that because if you draw a circle to include me and every other living person on earth you take us all with our warts and all. To make that largest circle of inclusion you would have to agree that someone in your circle is okay in believing that Jesus never existed at all, that he did not die on the cross, and that he did not rise from the dead. You take in the person who adamantly believes that you are an infidel worthy only of being killed. You would have to accept the fact that you have no more right to change those thoughts than they have a right to change yours.
    That is God’s circle of inclusion, “All are his children and all abide by His command.”
    I’m not sure I am strong enough to cast that big a circle.
    Are you in or out?


  2. rapunzel says:

    Obviously, we all do have more than one circle. The circle that I refer to here includes all who want to be included, who will respect me and others in the circle. They do not have to believe the same as I do, and may hold beliefs that are incompatible with my beliefs. I accept that, as long as they treat me and the others here with respect. I believe that we all have something to offer, even if we do not agree on everything.

  3. My apiologies for posting this here but “Love and acceptance”, the other thread, won’t accept the security code. (I’ve tried several times for several days.)

    Good description of your circle of inclusion.
    We seem to have a large gap between our vision of what our greatest inclusive circle actually is. We probably need to build a longer chain before we can pull them nearer each other.
    Respect and want are a couple of interesting concepts. The vast majority of people do not want to be in my circle for the simple reason that they have no idea what that circle encircles.Talking freely on blogs such as this will help people decide the parameters of their own circle.
    Coming from an advertising background I am positive that people must know a thing exists before they want it. I stumbled across your circle here and I assume I know a good bit about what is in it. (I have passed over many a blog) Like the person who bought a drill bit though, not because she wanted a drill bit but because she wanted a hole, I didn’t want your circle but rather I wanted the ideas inside.
    Is it respectful to come in and pick your brain?

  4. rapunzel says:

    Robert, I am glad that you did find this circle, and that you were interested enough to look and see what ideas were inside it. The ideas are offered freely, and you are welcome here. Feel free to ask questions, join in, and search for answers. Maybe we can all help each other.

  5. I have never known a person who at one time or another in their life has not felt “left out”. Many of us feel that we are perpetually left out, but that is never true. Many of us have been invited into circles but we didn’t want in. All of us have wanted in a circle but we were not invited and we weren’t strong enough to bust through the door.
    That is simply the way people circles work.
    Gods circle includes all six billion of us, the good the bad the beauthiful the ugly you and me and there are no questions asked. You are simply in Gods circle. Can I accept inclusion in that circle? Do I WANT inclusion in that circle? If I feel left out of that circle it is of my own doing.
    I have no right to exclude anyone from that circle.

  6. rapunzel says:

    I can agree with that. It can be difficult to hear that when we felt left out, we had any choice in that. But it is true much of the time, even if we had good reason for not wanting in to a particular circle or another. We still chose one thing over another.

  7. Still a good poem.
    The naunce changed just a bit as we matured another inch.

    She drew a circle and invited me in,
    cool dude, handsome clever lout.
    Money, religion, political talk to win,
    She cried foul, disrespect and threw me out.

    But love and wit to the rescue,
    talk is talk and oh so cheap.
    We may sit in seperated pew,
    But talk on for a harvest to reap.

    Rapunzel, rapunzel let down your hair.

    It is a pleasure meeting you.


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